This is How it Goes
As I head into my monthly disorientation I had a thought...We go through life wanting to be loved and needed by others. We are programmed in life to think these things are inherent to our being happy. I've come to the conclusion that it's one thing to want these things, but it's another thing to truly believe in their existence and to have faith in their presence when they are in our lives. I've more or less decided that it is only when we truly have faith in their existence in our lives (not the want to have them but the actual presence of them) that we can be content.
. . .kind of overly philosophical for me, but it made sense at the time.
Comments
10:25 pm | 14 March 2007Jon
I tend to think that it is when the most basic needs of life are meet --- food, water, shelter, and love --- that it is much easier to become enraptured in other things. I like to ponder that love and being needed and wanted can take many forms, and that the question to ask is how our society seems to often highlight particular stories of love and what it is to need and want, be needed and wanted, and not examine the other possibilities too closely.
As I get closer and closer to leaving PEI as my home for an extended period of time, perhaps for the rest of my life (as of now, I have little intention to return for any longer than visits), I'm lately feeling more and more detached from my friends who have no intention of leaving here, who don't think they can, or really can't. My interests, my life, seems to moving well beyond the island. It's a very strange feeling, and one I'm not entirely comfortable with, but that I don't particularly want to stop at the expense of all the work I'm doing. I'm always fairly hermit-like during the school year, but this year is different because it's not just another year. . . I assume my discomfort comes from the fact that while I'm doing what I really want to do with my life, I will be losing a safety net of associations and involvement that has long been in the background, yet as a result of its role as such has often, in the past, given me a great deal of confidence. 'Course there's always the net, but it won't only be a physical distance problem as much as shifting interests and commonalities.
My point with this story is that I feel that being needed, needing, being loved, and loving, can take many different forms that are not celebrated in any Harlequin romance.
10:46 pm | 14 March 2007maria
Way to take it to the harlequin.... heh. The need and love i was refering to is more abstract and less romantic, but i get where you are coming from. The post actually stemed from a song lyric (of which song i can't remember now) "the hardest thing in the world to do is to find out someone believes in you".
9:20 am | 17 March 2007liz
i couldn't help but think that song lyric was referring to how hard it is to accept the fact that someone loves or looks up to you. That's a really huge responsibility.. and something you need to decide if you are going to take seriously.. and take the time ot nurture that new relationship or blow it off.
I wish I wasn't leaving for Halifax right now.. because if I wasn't.. I might take the time to comment on how important it is to love yourself.. before you can let anyone else love you.. maybe when i get home? :)